Do you ever feel like you have a million things all demanding your attention at once? Do you ever feel distracted by things that don’t really matter? You are not alone, I think that most mothers feel like this on a ongoing basis. It is a constant struggle on how to be more present with your kids.
We are mothering in a time when there are so many demands on our time.
We are expected to do it all and we are always connected. While technology and the internet definitely has its benefits, there are also many negative effects.
I think that being a stay at home mom, it is easy to feel isolated and staying connected on social media can help us to feel more connected.
At the same time, it can quickly become a distraction and a time suck from things that may be better spent with our time.
I think learning to be present is a skill to learn. It is a skill that you have to develop and practice.
I am not perfect at this. I am a major work in progress because but I thought I would share some of my tips that I have learned along the way.
How to Ditch Distractions and be Present With Your Kids
1. Limit social media.
I am not saying you have to give it up completely, but try to be mindful and honest in how much time you are spending on it.
Once you realize how much time you are spending on Facebook or Pinterest you can then decide if you need to cut back. If you do there are a few tricks you can try.
The first is to put time limits on social media. Tell yourself you will only check Facebook for 15 min in the morning and 15 minutes in the evening or whatever schedule works for you.
You can put your phone in the cupboard or drawer during the day, so that it is less tempting to constantly be checking it.
You can also make small changes, like going social media free for the first hour when you wake up and the last hour before you go to sleep. After a few weeks, increase it to other times in your day. Or you can try a “screen free day”.
2. Simpilfy your schedule.
Cut down your commitments to the essentials. I think society tells us that we need to fill our schedules to the brim and put our kids in every kind of extra-curricular there is. However, I feel like when we do this we are missing on opportunities to slow down and be present in our life.
Re-examine the commitments you have or the extra-curriculars your kids are in and find out if they work for you and and your family and if they are worth the time it takes. I am not saying to cut extra-curriculars all together, if your child loves it and you think it is worth the time, then keep it!
Remember that mommy is a person too!
One of the best things I have ever done has to learn to manage my time and clear my mind of all the stress and clutter. The way I learned to do this was using Power of Mom’s Mind Organization for Moms program. It not only helped me be more organized in my physical world and be more productive but it helped me get rid of all the stuff I had been worrying about in my head which allowed me to be more present with my kids.
3. Delegate Responsibilities
Hire someone to come clean your house a couple times a month or find a “mother’s helper”. If you this is not a possibility, delegate tasks that take up your time to other members of your family.
Ask yourself, “does this have to be done by me?”, if not then delegate.
Set up chores for your kids, so that you are not stuck doing everything. When you can delegate things like cleaning, it allows more time in your day to be present with your kids and spend meaningful time.
4. Look your child in the eye when they are talking to you.
When your child is asking you a question or talking to you, stop and look them in the eye. This will make them feel valued and like you care about what they are saying.
When we half pay attention to what our kids our saying because we are distracted by something else, it can hurt our relationships with our kids.
5. Pick times in the day when you are going to be 100% present with your kids.
Picking one to two 20-30 minute periods a day when you can be fully present and spend quality time with your kids will make such a big difference. It will make you feel more connected to your kids and it will make your children happier and more well behaved.
You don’t have to be playing on the floor with your kids all day to be present, pick a few special times in the day that works best for your family and then give them your undivided attention.
6. Give yourself “mommy time”.
When you follow your dreams and engage in activities you love, you will feel happier and more refreshed.
Spend 30 minutes a day or a few hours a week to yourself to do something you love. It can be something you have always wanted to do like taking a photography or cooking class or it can be something small like taking 30 minutes a day to read a book you have been wanting to read.
Mommy is person is a great online e-course thats you learn to nurture yourself so that you are better able to nurture your children as well.
7. Be creative with your time.
Some of the best times to connect with your kids are times we wouldn’t normally consider.
Instead of listening to music in the car when you are out try talking instead.
Also, making dinner together can be a great way to bond with your child.
8.Find Happiness in the moments.
When we learn to find happiness in the moments and stop looking to the future for our happiness, we can be more present in the moment.
Following these 8 simple steps will help you cut through all of those demands on your time and distractions and allow you to increase the quality time and moments with your child.
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